How does a women assert her power in this world, to show the man she is his equal?
I recently had a conversation with someone about the way men shouldn't open doors for women, or offer them a seat on trains before themselves.
One of her reasons were that women don't need men to offer them the privileges that imply we are the weaker specie. It somehow dignifies women if we can deny the need for chivalry.
I appreciate the feminist quality that is growing through society, to say I don't embrace elements of feminism would be a lie as I clearly have what is refereed to as 'Tinkerbell syndrome', but what my question to the budding feminists of the world is- Does chivalry really deny women their equality?
To me it seems that women, in their bid to assert their power and strength are denying their naturally given rights. Rather then allowing chivalry they are sacrificing their privileges for a man's benefit, because who really benefits when the man takes the seat over the women? Or when the man watches on while the women struggles with the shopping bags? Or when a mother works full time?
Yes, you can question what makes us more deserving then the man, what makes it right that we should have these privileges that imply our physical inferiority or fatigue and frailty. But what made us deserve the right to bare a child? Or the right to be the smaller gender? Or the more emotional gender?
Women are a man's equal, but they are only equal because of their differences. For a women to take on the role of the man absolutely, only denies her the right to be equal, because it is in our autonomy to bare that responsibility that the man will never have. The women is the child barer, it is she that must nurture the child in her womb and it is she who has oestrogen running through her body. Till the man can do what a women is obliged to do, we will never be the same. We can never have equal roles in this world, and by attempting to do merge roles we seemingly make our role larger then our male counter-parts.
But we can do is cancel out each others differences by identifying that what is one's weakness may be anthers strength.
So why deny yourself the right to be equal? Why not accept that we are women, and we need different things from a man, things he doesn't need from us, because until our autonomy changes we will never be the same as them, we can only be their equal.
I appreciate the feminist quality that is growing through society, to say I don't embrace elements of feminism would be a lie as I clearly have what is refereed to as 'Tinkerbell syndrome', but what my question to the budding feminists of the world is- Does chivalry really deny women their equality?
To me it seems that women, in their bid to assert their power and strength are denying their naturally given rights. Rather then allowing chivalry they are sacrificing their privileges for a man's benefit, because who really benefits when the man takes the seat over the women? Or when the man watches on while the women struggles with the shopping bags? Or when a mother works full time?
Yes, you can question what makes us more deserving then the man, what makes it right that we should have these privileges that imply our physical inferiority or fatigue and frailty. But what made us deserve the right to bare a child? Or the right to be the smaller gender? Or the more emotional gender?
Women are a man's equal, but they are only equal because of their differences. For a women to take on the role of the man absolutely, only denies her the right to be equal, because it is in our autonomy to bare that responsibility that the man will never have. The women is the child barer, it is she that must nurture the child in her womb and it is she who has oestrogen running through her body. Till the man can do what a women is obliged to do, we will never be the same. We can never have equal roles in this world, and by attempting to do merge roles we seemingly make our role larger then our male counter-parts.
But we can do is cancel out each others differences by identifying that what is one's weakness may be anthers strength.
So why deny yourself the right to be equal? Why not accept that we are women, and we need different things from a man, things he doesn't need from us, because until our autonomy changes we will never be the same as them, we can only be their equal.
