I'm happy being different :-)

In a society where popularity and image is everything. I think a lot of the time when people look at me they expect me to be something like everyone else. Then I talk... And what be known I'm not.
It’s easy to get caught up in one self these days, and being 'cool' and 'hard' is something so many of us spend so  much time trying to be. But what is 'cool' and what are you trying to be exactly?

Why do we spend time trying to be what others tell us we should be? I never gave in to what everyone told me I should be. It’s just too wrong being everyone else, and not being you.
It really annoys me when I hear people talking about other people, by thinking they are somehow better then everyone because they have the image or are 'cool' 'popular' 'everyone knows me' and 'everyone wants to be me'.

Well I have news for those people. I don't. Being 'known' or being what you think is the 'fun' or 'swag' or 'cool' or 'hard' way to be is not what 'cool' or 'swag' to me. And living like you wish you were on The Only Way's Essex is not what we all envy.
Now, I'm not going to judge you for what you do, or who you are. Because you are entitled to live how wish... if that's how you want to live. But I'd appreciate people more if they did not assume superiority over others because they think they are 'It'.
Looks fade, reputations die, you remain, and the people that like you for you stay with you. Sometimes we have to leave the bubble of superficial and really understand who we are as people, and appreciate what the different people have to offer. Don't just stick to the group of people that 'look good'.

To that person who wants to take on the world :)

I never told my friend I was going to write this post about her, and she probably never expected me to ever take to the stage and do so. But I used to write about the people in my life that inspire me to be who I am, and those that live in a way that should inspire others. It’s often hard to put a character into words, and I think for this person I will find it hard to describe the sheer enthusiasm and power this character has.

I have never met a person so willing and encouraging, and so ready to take on the world. She comes with many quirks I assure you but her belief is so inspiring I wish I could bottle it and show it to every person that walks past. My amazing friend UJ :) this is for you...

It amazes me the way I get the random messages from you and the way you come up to me telling me how you want to be the next Internet phenomenon and start something that takes the world by storm. The faith you have is inspiring and it honestly makes me want to take the world on with you. I've never met anyone so determined to make something of them, and you've proved too many of us that you are more than capable of creating a society or two :)

Besides your sensational faith in yourself... I completely adore your faith in others.. I know I once told you I wish that I have a child like you that is because the true love you have for other people is beautiful for me. I've had many friends encourage me to do things and be things, but I have to be honest and say no one has ever made me feel as encouraged as you have. You seem to see something in people that most people miss, and I know even with few words said, you have an understanding and faith in me that makes me want to be everything you think I can be. So thank you for having a faith in me, and believing I can do things I didn't think I could do. Thank You for helping me find myself. And thank you for being You.

And don't forget me when you take on the world :) and win... or better yet Lets not forget to take on the world together.

Much love :) xxxxx

My untitled post :-)

I know I haven't blogged in a very long time and I am really sorry for that, because I have noted I have now hit over 2000 hits. So I am very grate full for those of you that regularly check this and indulge in the words I splurge when I am on rant. I know most of my readers are from the U.S. and Germany and it amazes me that the things I say can reach people from across the world, and actually matter or mean something to you. I guess it proves that words have power and influence that no one can put true value to. Words are permanent and the Internet makes it infinite. For many years to come everything I've written will stay encapsulated on this one html coding that preserves that moment in time I  was inspired and I'll forever be able to return to who I was at that time and what I was thinking. Its beautifull the way in which technology has helped us to improve and find who we are. I know when I first began this blog  I was on a mission. ANTIFACEBOOKISM. and I am still very much anti facebook.. but I think blogging has helped me become more than just that girl that hates facebook, although have I been recommended by various anti facebook threads. LOL. I'm happy just to inspire, if I can inspire one person I'm happy. making a difference in the world these days is hard, because many of us are set in stone with opinions, and why wouldn't we be? To an opinion we are entitled. But having the ability to change an opinion or to even get someone to think. I am grateful for. And Thank You to the Internet for allowing the world to be intertwined in this way.

P.S. I am sorry for the irrelevance of this post I just felt like writing to you all :)

Everyone deserves a chance

We've all met that person that gives off a vibe and a half. You automatically assume that they are not worth talking to, they'll annoy you, they'll be rude, or something along the lines of it just is not worth it.
But what makes you think you are right?
You don't like their face?
Reason much?
People said things, I heard things, I'm pretty sure
Heard it all before
In my own head lol.

But it's amazing how some people can prove us so wrong, judging others is inevitable but sometimes our judgement can be wrong, just the way other people can judge us wrongly. I think everyone deserves the chance to prove themselves to you, without anything else besides what they say and do to you being what counts. Open your eyes and Open your minds. At least you can't Say you tried even if they prove you right.

Be that person

I can’t speak for everyone, but I know that I love making people happy. It makes me happier than anything, than doing something that I know will make someone smile or saying something that makes someone laugh, brings light to my day.

No one goes through life being happy every second of the day and everyone has their own problems and pain, and being that person that helps someone, anyone, everyone feel even a little bit better about themselves makes everything better for everyone because the world is a sweeter place when people are smiling. And you can be that reason, why it is, be that person who makes someone’s day, say something nice do something nice and I promise you'll never regret it. Be the light you wish to see in the world.

Dont let anyone bring you down

Something I've seen a lot of recently is people knocking people down. So what if you are dreaming big!?

Your dreams are your dreams and that's what makes you, don't ever let it break you. Don't let people tell you that you cant do something that you Know you can do. Because You know Yourself better than anyone does.
And if anyone ever tries to tell you, that you can't do what You know you can and want to do, let it drive you and inspire you to meet and beat that dream. Because it can be done. And only you can make it so.

Never give up on happiness

That feeling like everything and everyone is against you, and nothing can go right can sometimes be over whelming and makes it so difficult to see any light at the end of the tunnel.

I know its cliche and I know it can be irritating when people are saying, things will get better and don't worry, it'll all work out, because all you want to say is No it Wont. and Stop telling me it Will.

 Life does that to us, it throws bricks and stones and bruises us. And we bleed. I know that pain, and I know that low. Thinking nothing and no one can do anything to make any of this better, because its me and life's just out to get me.
But it isn't and it isn't out to get you either, and I'm not saying that everything is going it be easy or we'll wake up and rainbows and butterflies will appear and every dark aspect of our lives will disappear , because that's not life. But I can say some way and some how you'll find happiness no matter what the situation and how low you go,  don't give up because the more open we are to finding happiness the easier it'll be to get to us. And it's out there for everyone some way through some door the light will get brighter. Just take the steps or in some cases take the push.

All you can do is hold on and be patient, because things will get better. :)

x

Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die tomorrow

Enjoy each moment for what it is, life is not a life if it's all work and no play. Enjoy what you work hard for, dream as if the world is yours, and live it as if it's ending tomorrow. Have no regrets and do everything you can to make your dreams come true.

If it's the last thing i say

Lasting impression, we are only as good as our last deed.
Sometimes anger gets in the way and we say things we don't mean or we say things we do mean and those things are mean. Do you get what i mean?

You see how many things can be interpreted the same word has different meanings, and things may be interpreted worse than you meant for them to be. Words can really hurt a person, and if we never amend the pain we inflict, we leave an everlasting suffering upon a person,

When a person is awful to you and you outburst in a rude way, you feel relieved, and you feel better but if you never put things right what you say will be the last portrayal of your character.
So do we won't the people who bring out the worsT in us to only know the worst of us? Or do we want to overcome our worst self and the worst of others and say the right thing, in the right way?

If it's the last thing i do good person or bad person i never want them to be left with a bad image of me as my worst person, for I'm only as good as my last deed. No one can be perfect but No one has to be bad.  I hope that a positive attitude and a kindness i can spread to my friend or foe will only be infectious and i hope in the distant memory of me people will only think of the courtesy and the poise i held myself in when the world was against me. And i hope we all can strive for the same destiny. For a world with people fighting to be better is a world that is growing to peace and harmony.

If it's the last thing I say I'd ask for us all to be forgiving and to be kind.

Silent gratitude isn't very much to anyone.

Gratitude is a beautiful things, its a simple way of letting people know that they and their efforts are appreciated, yet many of us fail to show our gratification.

Many people will sacrifice for our well being and do things to benefit us more then themselves. We are happy to except the courtesy and live by our preference but we fail to recognise that our gratitude should be displayed to reward the people around us for their selflessness.

I'm not saying people do nice things so that they can be thanked, but its nice to feel like what you do is appreciated.

So some reciprocation in effort and gratitude is not to much to ask because one day the people who sacrifice for us may not be here and we will only be left with the regret for not showing them how grateful we where.

Keeping gratitude to yourself is no benefit to anyone.

Do you understand?

Not for the narrow minded

One of the most annoying thing in life is when people cannot or will not open up to the views of others, or the idea that someone can feel differently to what you think is the right way to respond.

The thing is with people is that none of us have shared the exact same experiences or lived the same style life because no matter how close you are to anyone be it family or friend your mind body and soul are different.

So why are people set on always thinking that they are right? Why can't people appreciate that others can feel a certain way and it may be due to a certain reason? Why is your view that the problem is small when someone elses is that it is big?

Of course ignorance is suffered by everyone in one way or another, humans are selfish to their own needs and their own views we think ourselves superior in opinion because what we believe, to us, is what Is.

The thing is it Is not. The complexity of the mind causes people to react in different ways to form different opinions, we are individuals. We are entitled to feel the way we feel.

Perhaps the question lies in how we portray our feelings? Is it always right to openly display them? or should there be a line to expressing ones opinions?

For me that is a tricky question because thoughts and feelings are so destructive that if you cross heads with someone that has a opposite view you are headed for a crash, and in that case should we refine our opinions? Or should we indulge in our emotions and thoughts and embody them? Which is humane? Which is moral?

You may not understand me but we have not the same mind.

Life is like a coin. You can spend it any way you wish, but you only spend it once.

Lillian Dickson
We often forget that our time is not going to come back to us. We are complacent to the extent that we go through our every day life in a routine, which causes us to forget that our days will come to an end.

Our time is not infinite. 
Life is not eternal, and the way we spend it is crucial to everything.

How we spend each second that passes defines so many things for the future.
The Domino effect.

If you think about life being like a domino effect wouldn't we all be trying to make the right move to get the smoothest transition through life.

Every move we make counts for something every minute that passes is a minute gone forever.

We make that choice of what we spend our time on ultimately we are defining the path ahead

Yet, each moment need not be calculated or thought through to be valuable.

Be thoughtless and carefree and accept for the future for what it is, and do not dwell on the choices you didn't make.

When life throws lemons, you can always make lemonade.  

True friendship is when two friends can walk in opposite directions, yet remain side by side.

Life goes on and people move on.. along the way we make plenty of friends yet by the end only few will remain....
While we venture into different things and lead different lives we will lose many friends along the way. Why? Because we come to realise what we need and who we have time for, or who we will Make time for.

Moving in opposite directions and pursuing different things, should not break the friendships that are truly secure. Two people can lead different lives yet still with hold a friendship and when you know you are able to do so you know who have a true friendship.

Over a 1000 views

Just want to say thank you to everyone reading this and taking the time. 1000 isn't the largest number but its a heck of a lot to me so thanks for the support and i'll keep posts coming x

Dear reader,

Sorry i have not updated in a while! need to keep up with the posts. Will be thinking up some ideas in my mind things that have been bugging me and spill it out for you to read. Just need to get past some writers block first. Thanks for waiting.

Be patient

xxo

A friend in need, Be a friend indeed

Cheesy right? ok ok, but it has some good meaning...

Being a friend is not always about being funny and bubbly it's also about being there.
Everyone has their own difficulties in life, even if they do not show it. We know nothing of what goes on behind closed doors.

There comes times when the people around us need someone to help hold the weight of the trouble they carry, big or small. And the friend that's there able and willing to carry the trouble of their friends and their own. Is a friend indeed.

Don't leave that person in need, they may be the only one there when you need someone.

Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.

Although we do not always realise the actions we make affect others.
I always feel like what I do and say will affect the mood of my friends, so I try to be cheer full so that everyone feels happy. I try to be supportive so everyone feels motivated, and I try to be kind so everyone feels cared for.

I know I make a difference by ever smile I get when I make a silly joke and I know it's not the biggest thing, but I know it matters.

And you should know you matter too, you matter to the people around you and the things you do affect your friends and family. Being happy is infectious, and you want to be the one that spreads that virus because it's one no one wants cured.
Although sadness cannot always be helped or prevented, so be that person that makes that sad person happy and make a difference because that difference could be small to you and so large to them.

When you cry I cry and when you smile I smile.

Dont stop believing

Life can be really shit sometimes, we go through things that really hurt us and stress us out.
And we feel like giving up.
We think we can’t live anymore
Or be anymore

But we can.

Life comes with its own set of Terms and Conditions and like most, we tick agree without reading it. But the reality is life will test us. We'll lose things and people, our hearts will break, we will cry till our eyes are dry and feel empty inside. But we can’t stop believing. When you stop believing you prevent yourself from exceeding.
Don't be your own worst enemy, and stop yourself from moving on, because you deserve happiness... You just have to find it.

God only tests the ones he knows can cope.

Don't Fail the test... Don't stop believing